"I am frustrated "... how many times in the day I quote this...
i knowww lot's of ...
now !! frustration has become universal phenomoenon ... People use it so casually... and actually they don't know which emotion actually they are undergoing ... today my friend called me and we both were talking generally and she said that she is frustrated because her life is not happening (that means problems in love life.. i gussed that ) yesterday i was talking with other friend she also said that life is frustrating because her boss is a pig amd making her life living hell...my mom always says that bus lines are frustrating.. I always thought that power cut's are frustrating.. my father thinks my behaviour is frustrating.. My brother thinks all girls are frustrating... God!! so much of it and its everywhere like Mall's (they are also everywhere ).....
So that means actually I am living with people who are on verge of depression or they are just using fundoo term to tell people that they are streesed out... ok so stress can be one of the factor which can lead to frustration... before that... want to know what frustration is??
I think it is an expression of emotion--> which comes out when our needs, desires or wishes are obstruct by some factors, may it be time, lack of resources , norms and values, society...(Actually these all things and many more.. right now I can think of this much... "I am frustrated"..oops!! )
What dictionary say is that" deep chronic sense or state of insecurity and dissatisfaction arising from unresolved problems or unfulfilled needs "(God this definition is quite "frustrating" to read.. shit not again )...
so when something goes wrong in life--u come to dead end and don't know where to go.... at that time frustration comes.. but I think in my life Everything goes wrong every time... so that means I am FRUSTRATED... no i don't think so... although i use this word very often... do i have my frustration busters ?? that's million dollar question...
Monday, April 28, 2008
Friday, April 25, 2008
"Marriage" Made in heaven...
Today i attended a Marriage...
And just one thought came to my mind... when I saw the Bride and Groom..they both were looking so "made for each other" and I felt , Really marriages are made in heaven...
As of now Me and My friends, all are eligible for marriage now!! .. and many of my friends are getting married(latest... My friend Sonali also)...
So, What is marriage? AND what it means to everybody? Married or unmarried...which life is better?...which marriage is better arranged or love...
As dictionary says marriage is-->"the social institution under which a man and woman establish their decision to live as husband and wife by legal commitments, religious ceremonies, etc. "
Ok...But what people think? so i asked several people at wedding and some of my friends also
(as we were waiting for Reception) what marriage means to them?... I asked my "mom" first as she was seating just besides me.. she said that it's all about responsibilities, comprmise, adjustment from both sides..(i gussed it !!before She told)...next I asked my aunt she said" it is marriage, u get married, have kids, then take care of everybody ,they take care of u, u have your own family, "...then i asked my friend she said that when you love someone and u want spend your life with that person and you want grow old with that person have kids and family..(i felt like she was repeating some dialogue from hindi movie"actually that's fine a little bird told me that she is in love" ) ... then i asked my12 yr old little sister she replied that it's so cute, u get nice clothes and jewellery and u meet every body...
I got similar kinds of answers .. many of them said same things..then I asked one of my anuty and she said that "marriage is all about trusting your husband that he will take care of you, and promising him that you will be always there with him , who will be your companion forever, with whom u r going to raise ur kids and family, and one day he will give fire to ur deadbody".. god!!for two minutes i felt so bad as i knew that she is a 55 years old widow and ... i was able to read pain in her eyes.. and i felt ashemed..really
know this view is only one-sided as i asked this question to all females..but something is better than nothing..
so what i gathered from them is
"marriage"--> is to have family, kids, responsibilities, sharing and caring, trusting and loving
Wow!! Matrimony is great institution!!
at least our tradition....
Next and very important question what kind of life partner everybody looks for??
Its long list, such as "love, trust , honesty, caring, broad minded, sharing, gives you respect, cares about your opinion etc. "
...but one thing which is I think most imporatant when you look for that "special person" is that "that person should stand for you in any situation" one of my colleague told me this and she is happily married....
which marriage is better "love " or "arranged"....
I know everybody will have their take on it... especially those who are married ...
what i foud out that both have some good points and bad points... in arranged marriage everthing is new and both of them are tring to adjust, even ur new family.. in love, they knew each other so well that there is no need to undrstand and adjust but in-laws may create problems.. there no anxiety as such... if arrnage marriage goes wrong u can always come back to ur family. but in love, u have no where to go most of the times... but in love, you are with the person whom you love so dearly, and he/she takes care of , knows you better than anyone, you know about the persons values also..in arrange marriage sometimes couple is mismatched and creates problems...on thinking level, values also differ.. I think there no conclusion to this topic ... let it be... choose what works better for u...Or if you are in love get married or wait for that Mr. right or Miss Right to come along..
And just one thought came to my mind... when I saw the Bride and Groom..they both were looking so "made for each other" and I felt , Really marriages are made in heaven...
As of now Me and My friends, all are eligible for marriage now!! .. and many of my friends are getting married(latest... My friend Sonali also)...
So, What is marriage? AND what it means to everybody? Married or unmarried...which life is better?...which marriage is better arranged or love...
As dictionary says marriage is-->"the social institution under which a man and woman establish their decision to live as husband and wife by legal commitments, religious ceremonies, etc. "
Ok...But what people think? so i asked several people at wedding and some of my friends also
(as we were waiting for Reception) what marriage means to them?... I asked my "mom" first as she was seating just besides me.. she said that it's all about responsibilities, comprmise, adjustment from both sides..(i gussed it !!before She told)...next I asked my aunt she said" it is marriage, u get married, have kids, then take care of everybody ,they take care of u, u have your own family, "...then i asked my friend she said that when you love someone and u want spend your life with that person and you want grow old with that person have kids and family..(i felt like she was repeating some dialogue from hindi movie"actually that's fine a little bird told me that she is in love" ) ... then i asked my12 yr old little sister she replied that it's so cute, u get nice clothes and jewellery and u meet every body...
I got similar kinds of answers .. many of them said same things..then I asked one of my anuty and she said that "marriage is all about trusting your husband that he will take care of you, and promising him that you will be always there with him , who will be your companion forever, with whom u r going to raise ur kids and family, and one day he will give fire to ur deadbody".. god!!for two minutes i felt so bad as i knew that she is a 55 years old widow and ... i was able to read pain in her eyes.. and i felt ashemed..really
know this view is only one-sided as i asked this question to all females..but something is better than nothing..
so what i gathered from them is
"marriage"--> is to have family, kids, responsibilities, sharing and caring, trusting and loving
Wow!! Matrimony is great institution!!
at least our tradition....
Next and very important question what kind of life partner everybody looks for??
Its long list, such as "love, trust , honesty, caring, broad minded, sharing, gives you respect, cares about your opinion etc. "
...but one thing which is I think most imporatant when you look for that "special person" is that "that person should stand for you in any situation" one of my colleague told me this and she is happily married....
which marriage is better "love " or "arranged"....
I know everybody will have their take on it... especially those who are married ...
what i foud out that both have some good points and bad points... in arranged marriage everthing is new and both of them are tring to adjust, even ur new family.. in love, they knew each other so well that there is no need to undrstand and adjust but in-laws may create problems.. there no anxiety as such... if arrnage marriage goes wrong u can always come back to ur family. but in love, u have no where to go most of the times... but in love, you are with the person whom you love so dearly, and he/she takes care of , knows you better than anyone, you know about the persons values also..in arrange marriage sometimes couple is mismatched and creates problems...on thinking level, values also differ.. I think there no conclusion to this topic ... let it be... choose what works better for u...Or if you are in love get married or wait for that Mr. right or Miss Right to come along..
Tuesday, April 22, 2008
Women will Rule ALWAYS....
You know what Mr.Bejan Daruwala predicted this morning.... that "It’s all about the women this year. Women will rule. This entire century will bloom in every field because of women. Be it home or office, politics or entertainment. I sincerely respect the power, sacrifice and courage of the female power myself. One night during my moment of revelations with God, I learnt that ‘devi maa’ will conquer the world through her splendid glory. As I was writing my conversation with God and I wrote Ganeshji will support this year through its turbulent times. Next morning to my surprise the letters changed and it was the Goddess in its placeged to us...
You are right Mr. Bejan Daruwala..But I want to make little correction that WOMEN will rule always
"Woman"... I always thought that Men and Women they are equal and those women or men who want to compete with men/ women they lack ambition..
and I am happy that we are creating space for ourselves..
In past, the women was good homemaker today she is handling big organisation; In past when she used to teach her own children now she is teaching all children; In past when she fought with British for her kingdom now she is fighting with evils of society; In past when she danced on the tunes of classical music now she can sway her body to all international beats..
common on!! people say that the status of women has changed... she has became more confident also... you know what please get your facts right ... coz women always been confident,beautiful,complex, organised, good leader, social worker and what not ....it's not we have changed .... It's peoples attitude towards us has changed .... now they have included in their mind that we do exist...
i am not against male population not at all.... i think they can be our good friends and we can actually make this world more beautiful...............
You are right Mr. Bejan Daruwala..But I want to make little correction that WOMEN will rule always
"Woman"... I always thought that Men and Women they are equal and those women or men who want to compete with men/ women they lack ambition..
and I am happy that we are creating space for ourselves..
In past, the women was good homemaker today she is handling big organisation; In past when she used to teach her own children now she is teaching all children; In past when she fought with British for her kingdom now she is fighting with evils of society; In past when she danced on the tunes of classical music now she can sway her body to all international beats..
common on!! people say that the status of women has changed... she has became more confident also... you know what please get your facts right ... coz women always been confident,beautiful,complex, organised, good leader, social worker and what not ....it's not we have changed .... It's peoples attitude towards us has changed .... now they have included in their mind that we do exist...
i am not against male population not at all.... i think they can be our good friends and we can actually make this world more beautiful...............
Monday, April 21, 2008
“Every great and deep difficulty bears in itself its own solution. It forces us to change our thinking in order to find it.”
“Every great and deep difficulty bears in itself its own solution. It forces us to change our thinking in order to find it.” Yes!! I truly believe this... when difficulty comes it actully brings solution with it..Many times it happens that, in difficult times when we are searching for solution... we couldn't find it.. we search it everywhere.. but not within ourselves... its there with us every second... we just have to change our focus of attention and think out of the box ... I know, trust me, how it feels when you are confuse.. you don't know where to go, what to do, whom to talk... we have so many questions in our mind and no answers... what to do at that time.. i still wonder.. i am 22 years old and still don't know what i am going to do in my life.. RATHER I would like to say that i don't know what i want from life.. I still don't know what i am good at.. i still don' t know what are my strengths.. what are my weaknesses? what i like? what i hate?what makes me happy?what makes me sad? what is the goal of my life? do i have any dreams? what i wish for?.... i don't know... i feel so useless and unproductive sometimes... i know that i am still in search of myself....i know that there is solution within me but there are some black clouds covering them.. and making it difficult for me to reach myself Sometimes i wonder... am i being turthful to myself ?? about so many things..
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