Today i attended a Marriage...
And just one thought came to my mind... when I saw the Bride and Groom..they both were looking so "made for each other" and I felt , Really marriages are made in heaven...
As of now Me and My friends, all are eligible for marriage now!! .. and many of my friends are getting married(latest... My friend Sonali also)...
So, What is marriage? AND what it means to everybody? Married or unmarried...which life is better?...which marriage is better arranged or love...
As dictionary says marriage is-->"the social institution under which a man and woman establish their decision to live as husband and wife by legal commitments, religious ceremonies, etc. "
Ok...But what people think? so i asked several people at wedding and some of my friends also
(as we were waiting for Reception) what marriage means to them?... I asked my "mom" first as she was seating just besides me.. she said that it's all about responsibilities, comprmise, adjustment from both sides..(i gussed it !!before She told)...next I asked my aunt she said" it is marriage, u get married, have kids, then take care of everybody ,they take care of u, u have your own family, "...then i asked my friend she said that when you love someone and u want spend your life with that person and you want grow old with that person have kids and family..(i felt like she was repeating some dialogue from hindi movie"actually that's fine a little bird told me that she is in love" ) ... then i asked my12 yr old little sister she replied that it's so cute, u get nice clothes and jewellery and u meet every body...
I got similar kinds of answers .. many of them said same things..then I asked one of my anuty and she said that "marriage is all about trusting your husband that he will take care of you, and promising him that you will be always there with him , who will be your companion forever, with whom u r going to raise ur kids and family, and one day he will give fire to ur deadbody".. god!!for two minutes i felt so bad as i knew that she is a 55 years old widow and ... i was able to read pain in her eyes.. and i felt ashemed..really
know this view is only one-sided as i asked this question to all females..but something is better than nothing..
so what i gathered from them is
"marriage"--> is to have family, kids, responsibilities, sharing and caring, trusting and loving
Wow!! Matrimony is great institution!!
at least our tradition....
Next and very important question what kind of life partner everybody looks for??
Its long list, such as "love, trust , honesty, caring, broad minded, sharing, gives you respect, cares about your opinion etc. "
...but one thing which is I think most imporatant when you look for that "special person" is that "that person should stand for you in any situation" one of my colleague told me this and she is happily married....
which marriage is better "love " or "arranged"....
I know everybody will have their take on it... especially those who are married ...
what i foud out that both have some good points and bad points... in arranged marriage everthing is new and both of them are tring to adjust, even ur new family.. in love, they knew each other so well that there is no need to undrstand and adjust but in-laws may create problems.. there no anxiety as such... if arrnage marriage goes wrong u can always come back to ur family. but in love, u have no where to go most of the times... but in love, you are with the person whom you love so dearly, and he/she takes care of , knows you better than anyone, you know about the persons values also..in arrange marriage sometimes couple is mismatched and creates problems...on thinking level, values also differ.. I think there no conclusion to this topic ... let it be... choose what works better for u...Or if you are in love get married or wait for that Mr. right or Miss Right to come along..
And just one thought came to my mind... when I saw the Bride and Groom..they both were looking so "made for each other" and I felt , Really marriages are made in heaven...
As of now Me and My friends, all are eligible for marriage now!! .. and many of my friends are getting married(latest... My friend Sonali also)...
So, What is marriage? AND what it means to everybody? Married or unmarried...which life is better?...which marriage is better arranged or love...
As dictionary says marriage is-->"the social institution under which a man and woman establish their decision to live as husband and wife by legal commitments, religious ceremonies, etc. "
Ok...But what people think? so i asked several people at wedding and some of my friends also
(as we were waiting for Reception) what marriage means to them?... I asked my "mom" first as she was seating just besides me.. she said that it's all about responsibilities, comprmise, adjustment from both sides..(i gussed it !!before She told)...next I asked my aunt she said" it is marriage, u get married, have kids, then take care of everybody ,they take care of u, u have your own family, "...then i asked my friend she said that when you love someone and u want spend your life with that person and you want grow old with that person have kids and family..(i felt like she was repeating some dialogue from hindi movie"actually that's fine a little bird told me that she is in love" ) ... then i asked my12 yr old little sister she replied that it's so cute, u get nice clothes and jewellery and u meet every body...
I got similar kinds of answers .. many of them said same things..then I asked one of my anuty and she said that "marriage is all about trusting your husband that he will take care of you, and promising him that you will be always there with him , who will be your companion forever, with whom u r going to raise ur kids and family, and one day he will give fire to ur deadbody".. god!!for two minutes i felt so bad as i knew that she is a 55 years old widow and ... i was able to read pain in her eyes.. and i felt ashemed..really
know this view is only one-sided as i asked this question to all females..but something is better than nothing..
so what i gathered from them is
"marriage"--> is to have family, kids, responsibilities, sharing and caring, trusting and loving
Wow!! Matrimony is great institution!!
at least our tradition....
Next and very important question what kind of life partner everybody looks for??
Its long list, such as "love, trust , honesty, caring, broad minded, sharing, gives you respect, cares about your opinion etc. "
...but one thing which is I think most imporatant when you look for that "special person" is that "that person should stand for you in any situation" one of my colleague told me this and she is happily married....
which marriage is better "love " or "arranged"....
I know everybody will have their take on it... especially those who are married ...
what i foud out that both have some good points and bad points... in arranged marriage everthing is new and both of them are tring to adjust, even ur new family.. in love, they knew each other so well that there is no need to undrstand and adjust but in-laws may create problems.. there no anxiety as such... if arrnage marriage goes wrong u can always come back to ur family. but in love, u have no where to go most of the times... but in love, you are with the person whom you love so dearly, and he/she takes care of , knows you better than anyone, you know about the persons values also..in arrange marriage sometimes couple is mismatched and creates problems...on thinking level, values also differ.. I think there no conclusion to this topic ... let it be... choose what works better for u...Or if you are in love get married or wait for that Mr. right or Miss Right to come along..
3 comments:
hey, thats a nice thought...i would also like to here more about the male perspective.[:)]
Did u observe how meaning of things change from one point of age to other....
from nice clothes.....to giving fire...
Maybe we wont ever know what marriages 'really' mean
A superb thought on institution...impressive. [:)]
But you can never leave the person midway, if you both love each other...
no one is perfect on this earth..cant you accept the unexpected also??
someone said ' Dnt marry me tomrw, am not askn for that..'
but what if that person leaves you even when u dnt ask him abt marriage??
marriage is an institution, cant love be like that..forgiving your lover for her or his mistakes??
when both are wrong on their sides..cant they just talk to each other for once, to clear out things..why decision was made on the spot..what was on the mind??
sharing is caring..
what if you are a coward and not covet enf to share??
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